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Life Update & What's New on By Lady Bry

Hello friends, it’s been a while. I took a break from this blog last month for a number of reasons. From saying goodbye to summer to adjusting to grad school, September was overwhelming. Today, I want to explain why I stopped blogging, update you on my life, and give you a sneak peek into the exciting things coming to By Lady Bry this month.

GRAD SCHOOL

In September, I started graduate school at American University’s School of Communications. After graduating in May with my BA in Public Relations (also at AU), I’m continuing on to pursue my Master’s degree in Strategic Communication. By next spring, I’ll be 23 with two degrees!

It took a lot prayer and nudging on God’s part to get me to grad school. The application was the easy. Once I got in, I had to convince myself that, even though other recent grads were starting their first jobs, grad school is worth it. I honestly wasn’t interested. I didn’t know why I applied. I was so eager to get into the workforce.  I thought grad school would put me behind everyone else. But for some reason, God was bent on me going here. After over a year of questioning, praying and considering my options, He opened all the right doors. Now I’m here about a month into grad school, and ….

I love grad school! Even though I’m at the same school, so much is new. My undergrad degree solely focused on public relations, specifically campaigning. My master’s has much more versatility and can be applied to multiple fields. I’m in a whole new class of students. (Yay new friends!) I love how AU attracts students from all over the world, and in the grad program, there’s students at all levels of their careers. I’m in class with entrepreneurs, individuals switching fields, current working professionals, and recent grads like me. This diversity of perspectives makes my class incredibly engaging. My professors, also from a variety of backgrounds, are invested in my success. Plus, I still get the perks of being an AU student, like a subsidized metro pass, an unlimited fitness class pass, and on-campus job fairs.

I finally have peace about my decision to go to grad school. I can feel the confirmation that I have stepped into God’s will, and He really wants me to be here. I’m so grateful to have another year of school to better equip myself and really hone my skills.

And I have no idea what I’m doing next year, so don’t ask. If I took anything away from my job search earlier this year, I learned that God is in control when you’re not. There is no need to waste time and energy worrying. Trust me, I learned this the hard way. His plan is in place, and God has your next destination. He might just make you wait for it. It’s in these times of waiting on the Lord that he equips and grows us in new ways.

TRANSITION & ACCEPTING MY NEW NORMAL

One thing you should know about me: I hate change. Let me repeat that. I hate change! Transition sucks. Moving on from summer, I miss having days off to relax without homework. I miss being able to go on trips for the weekend. I miss having two days off every week to work on this blog. Transitioning from undergrad, I miss being on campus all the time. I miss having a meal plan because on-campus food is so expensive. I miss hosting bible studies as a small group leader in campus ministry.

My grad program only lasts a year. I’m afraid of how fast it’s going to fly by. I want to savor every moment, because after this, I’m done with school forever. Now, I’m working on accepting my new normal: full-time grad school, working part-time, attending a church bible study, and writing this blog. While maintaining a social and devotional life, might I add.

As you can see, I have been juggling a very busy schedule, so much so that I lost this blog in September. I couldn’t figure out how to fit in my schedule. I was overwhelmed by the sudden change. As I come to terms with my new normal, I’m ready to welcome this blog back into my life and get back to writing. I have so many ideas of amazing content for you, especially for students. The fresh start of back to school is over, and now we’re in the thick of it. So I’ll be sharing wellness tips for school throughout the month of October. From study habits to taking breaks to midterms, I’ve got you covered.

Stay tuned for my next blog post coming Friday, October 5!

NEW on By Lady Bry this October

Love By Lady Bry and want MORE? I’m super excited to announce that By Lady Bry is expanding to Twitter and Instagram!

Coming THIS FRIDAY, Oct 6: By Lady Bry joins Twitter: @byladybry
Follow me on Twitter for daily words of encouragement. That’s right. Everyday. In such a crowded media space today, I want to cut through the bad news and spread positivity through the word of God. Start your day with an inspirational word of wisdom, scripture, daily mantra or affirmation right at the top of your feed.

Coming Friday, Oct 13: By Lady Bry joins Instagram @byladybry
Follow me on Instagram for weekly wellness tips. Learn how to pursue wellness in college, at work, in your spiritual life, and beyond. For more long-form content, read the full blog posts on By Lady Bry website (the link to my latest post will be in the bio).


What are you most excited for this school year? What are you nervous about? I'll go first in the comments below!

The Introvert’s Guide to Your First Semester of College

Who’s ready for back to school!? This post starts the By Lady Bry Back-to-School series! From now to the end of September, I’m sharing tips on pursuing wellness in college from self care to study habits to productivity tips. Stay tuned for new posts every Friday!

 

“Why are you so quiet?”
"Why are you even here, if you aren't going to talk to people?"
"You need to find a hobby or something, so you can meet people!"
“Have you met someone yet? You should go out more.”
“You haven’t talked that much. What do you think?”
“You need to break out of your shell.”
“Why are you so serious all the time?”

This is my list of things introverts are sick and tired of hearing. (Here’s a few more if you’re interested) If you’re anything like me, I grew up being called quiet and shy, and I hated it. I always felt pressured to be more social and outgoing. I thought something was wrong with me. You could say I was a "closeted introvert." Fast forward to my freshman year of college, someone asked me, whether I was an introvert or extrovert, and I flat out denied the truth. Within a few months, I finally put a name to my personality and accepted who I am: I am Bryana, and I am an introvert.

To the incoming college freshmen and fellow introverts, I’m going to be real with you. (Let's keep it 💯 ) Your first semester is a socially exhausting experience.  From meeting new people to going to parties, finding classes, and juggling group projects, there is an overwhelming amount of pressure to be social. Extroverts make it look easy. Freshmen, I know how you feel. I know what it feels like to sit in your room on a Friday night and watch everyone else go out to parties. I know what it feels like to eat alone in the dining hall. I know what if feels like to sit awkwardly silent in a new classroom with everyone else talking. It feels like crap, but from one introvert to another, I want you to remember:

Nothing is wrong with you. It is okay to be yourself.

College is the time to discover and accept who you really are, as I did. Now, I love who I am and fully embrace being an introvert.  As an one who survived college as an introvert, I’m sharing my best advice tips for surviving your first semester:

Being an Introvert in College

Your First Week

Make friends at your own pace.
Don’t be intimidated by the extroverts who have a ton of friends the first week. Meeting in groups can be overwhelming, so take your time getting to know people one by one. You don’t have to go out to big events to meet people. Start with your peers in your dorm or classes.

Don’t be afraid to say you need alone time.
Be open, honest and shameless about who you are. If they don’t like it, you can find better friends. A real friend will understand.

In Class

Be aware of your participation grade.
As an introvert in the class, I prefer to listen and soak in information visually watching a lecture rather than engage in a class discussion, but as a public relations major, I had no choice. Being an introvert is not a good enough excuse to not talk in class. Professors don’t care. I once had a professor who had a seating chart and counted every single time we talked in class to make our participation grade. (#tbh I did not do well in the class)

That being said, know what percentage of your grade is participation, how and how often your professor wants you to participate. Try your best to meet the minimum requirement.

Visit your professor’s office hours
Important for any college student, going to office hours shows your professors how invested you are in the class. You have the opportunity to get to know your professor and form a relationship that could award you opportunities in the years to come. For introverts, office hours allows you ask questions one-on-one instead of in class where you may not feel comfortable. If you don’t talk a lot in class, visiting your professor shows you are still invested.

In the Dorms & On Campus

Socialize at your own pace.
You don’t have to go to every party or event. You’re not missing out on as much as you think. There’s no point in forcing yourself to go to something if you’re not going to enjoy the event. As an INFJ, I like socializing in moderation. For example, if you invite me to an event on a Friday night, I’ll gladly join you, but don’t ask me to go out the next night. I’m straight up honest with my friends: “Yes, I want to go the movies alone.” “Yes, I want to go grocery shopping alone.” There’s no shame in taking a break or doing something on your own.  

It’s okay to eat alone.
I hated the dining hall my first semester because I thought I could only go there with a group of friends. That was until I realized that, unlike high school, there’s no shame in eating alone at college. Nobody will look at you like you’re sad or weird or lonely. There’s not loser table. Eat wherever you like. 


In other words, you do you boo! Be your beautiful introverted self, and don't let anyone try to change you. To the college freshmen starting this week and in the coming weeks, I wish you all the best. You are going to do amazing. Get ready for some of the best four years of your life.


Thanks for reading! Be sure to share with your fellow freshmen and introverts! Stay tuned for next week's post on A+ study habits.